By the time our first counselling appointment arrived we were feeling positive. We arrived together ready to talk about the past and the current issue at hand. (I cant stop with the puns…they just happen)
The guy was great, we clicked, he had a good sense of humour (i.e. he laughed when I made jokes to break the awkwardness of the subject) and he seemed prepared to take us on and help us. He admitted that he had never met anyone with the issue of no sensitivity but would research it before our next session so spent the remainder of the time finding out more about us.
He asked us questions about our opinions of our relationship, (ignoring the sexual side of it) asking us to rate each area out of 10 (10 being positive/satisfying/as good as it gets). We were asked to say our numbers at the same time to avoid being influenced.
Intimacy (cuddles and kisses) 10/10
It was a really positive activity, it was nice to see that he was as satisfied as I was, to establish that even with the issue in the bedroom we were still a pretty awesome team. We were still intimate in other ways, we still laughed, had fun and could still communicate well together -with a little room for improvement; our one issue didn’t affect us outside of the bedroom but the events surrounding it had affected my level of trust for him.
This came as no surprise to him, I’m honest about my trust levels so the counsellor suggested we work on the trust issue and sexual issue together in future sessions as they go hand in hand and improving one with have a positive effect on the other.
He also gave us homework for the next week until we saw him again…no sex! Well we knew we had been there before but this time someone was listening to our problem and had suggested this ban to both of us, he was hearing it from someone other than me and someone who wasn’t just throwing medication at him.
We booked our next appointment and headed home feeling encouraged, positive and hopeful…let the sex ban commence
- 7 Ways Your Relationship May Be Sabotaging Your Sex Life (everydayhealth.com)
- 7 ways to put the lust back in your marriage (foxnews.com)
- Is Your Marriage Failing? A Great Marriage Counselor Can Help! (nail3house.wordpress.com)
- Marriage Problems? Here’s an 8-Step Rescue Plan (psychologytoday.com)
- What We Think of Pre Marriage Counselling (arabiaweddings.wordpress.com)
- Put the sparkle back in your relationship in just 7 days with sex therapist’s guide (dailyrecord.co.uk)