Unconditional love? What is it?
‘Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, complete love, or “mother’s/father’s love.” Each area of expertise has a certain way of describing unconditional love, but most will agree that it is that type of love which has no bounds and is unchanging. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast, unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships. An example of this is a parent’s love for their child; no matter a test score, a life changing decision, an argument, or a strong belief, the amount of love that remains between this bond is seen as unchanging and unconditional.’
I always say that I love my husband unconditionally…but do i?
After a conversation (or 2) in which a friend asked whether I worried that he was going to do this all over again…if in a year or 2 he turned around and told me that all this ‘progress’ was bullshit…
I got thinking…what if? But what’s the point in what ifs? Like i told her…I worry about that happening every single day but I cant live focusing on that. I just have to trust that it wont happen…I mean…what else can I do?
So I spoke to my husband… I asked him to please PLEASE tell me if -in a year say- nothing had changed, if the therapy had had no affect on him whatsoever…if there wasn’t even the tiniest change…to tell me, to call quits…because the idea of this worry becoming a reality absolutely petrifies me and honestly, if it did happen I don’t think I could cope.
He agreed, he said it was fair enough and after that we actually had a really great week. We were more relaxed, we were ourselves (as far as i know) and we had fun…it was like a weight had been lifted and we bonded again. Maybe the idea of a time limit; the reminder that i will NOT stick around forever in a completely loveless marriage brought to light the seriousness of the matter. We got it out, we spoke about it and in some ways it gave us a reason to put in a little more effort, to delve deeper and to try harder.
But that’s not unconditional love on my part is it? That’s me putting yet another IF on it, adding another rule… I’ll love you IF you get help; I’ll love you IF you stop lying…I’ll love you IF something changes within x amount of time….
Or am i missing the point? Is unconditional love the idea that even if he didn’t do any of the above I would still love him…regardless of whether I stayed or left? But then leaving would be giving up wouldn’t it? and that would mean giving up on us…giving up on our love…and that’s not unconditional
Is it possible to have unconditional love for someone whom isnt related by blood?…I used to think it was…but now I’m not so sure
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